... and i have been poly for almost ten years now. my husband never even knew about open relationships until he met me. it has taken a lot of work and tons of trust. i have ruined friendships and put my foot up my own arse more than once.
when people tell you to read up and figure out what it is you are willing to give and recieve they are being honest. i will say that the D/s life has made being poly hard for me. it usually puts off any potential friends or partners.
recently, for the first time, telling a potential 3rd that i am submissive to my husband has helped us. this new possible 3rd actually feels more comfortable around us. he knows that my husband will pull me in if i get a little too into things. i tend to go overboard. i wear my heart on my face
like i said, this is rare. both my husband and this new guy get a kick out of testing my limits. fun for us all.
i'm smiling just thinking about it now but it's taken me almost ten years to get here... and i still don't know what's next.
op, you will okay. try not to over think and over plan.