hello op. i'm a sub and my husband is my dom. we met with the goal od having a D/s relationship. i totally understand how it feels when folks think that it's a bad set up. also, i have run into my share of problems. the poly world is very open but you will still find others that can not possibly get that what you have is what you want. i have learned to listen to the good advice and ignore anything said in ignorance.
we are looking for someone to add to our family. a gf for my husband or a bf for me. maybe even someone for the both of us.
just find people that you enjoy talking to on this site. there are loads of awesome folks on here. there are also loads of people that just don't get it. sometimes they are nice about it and you can have great conversations or even great arguments with them. just keep your eyes open.