Oh I get you have good intentions. What I am trying to say is those intentions are fine and dandy but not always reality.
You want someone who with just going to magically fit into this ideal fantasy you both are creating. Unfortunately life doesn't cooperate that way.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.