Tonight is the night
MD, FJ and I are hanging out tonight sans children. I am back to feeling really good about everything, and hopeful that tonight goes well. FJ and MD have both been checking in with me and very supportive, and so I feel amazing. One concern is that MD still keeps saying things about making sure fJ and I are ok, that I shouldn't worry about her, that I should only worry about us etc. I wonder how I can make it clear that her wants and needs matter as much as mine or his do. I've said as much, but she's relegating herself to an inferior position. As someone who is very concerned about the whole "unicorn" version of poly, I don't want to discard her feelings, but she is discarding her own. Any experience with this?
franchescasc-33, bi female, likely monogomish formerly in triad relationship with:
FJ-36, married 15 yrs
MD-35, gf for 8 months
Currently dating SM, male, 40, monogamous