Originally Posted by GalaGirl
I am only guessing here but if he's not feeling comfortable and feeling upset because he's needing reassure all that stuff would feel like "Aaaahhhhh!" to me. Not really liking any of it but not saying so for fear of "losing you" or something. What you might perceive as "loving him and giving him space to get his needs met that I cannot" he might perceive as "leaving me!" stuff.
My situation sounds quite similar to elle's, the more I hear about it. Thanks for the piece of advice above, Galagirl. I have also frequently encouraged my husband to look for a girlfriend, but I never thought about that it could be seen this way. I will talk with him and find out if he got the wrong impression.