Thanks for the input Anne, Nyc, and TGIG. Reading your different perspectives is like seeing the various sides of the conversation taking place in my own head. It's very helpful, I appreciate it.
And thanks for the birthday wishes (especially your ultra-colorful one, Nyc)!!!!
It did turn out to be a very happy birthday. Gia took lots of time and energy to make me feel amazing, and I helped maneuver things such that, by the end of the night, she was totally making out with her crush.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.