Thanks for the wishes, ladies.
And thank you for the advice, Opal!! I could really use perspectives on this topic.
We're on the road to the club. Gia has been ordering me around all night, it's been terribly fun. And, fortuitously, Clay texted me just now, apologized for being too busy to get in touch earlier, said he'd read my email and was thinking things over, and wished me the happiest of birthdays. I think I am now well and truly capable of having a non-distracted night.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.