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Old 04-12-2013, 11:45 PM
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Your dynamic will of course change. You will have your relationship with him, his with her, yours with her, all three of you together. Things will change, that's honestly why this particular relationship model is so daunting and why women are leery of couples.

If it changes, are you willing to work out how and how to deal with it? Or just go with the easy answer of, must be the new girl, and then dump her? It seems cruel to say it that way and indeed it feels cruel to the new person trying to build a relationship with you both. However, a lot of couples will do it and with many 'good' reasons and justifications.

You've been together 19 years, I'm going to assume that at some point that meant you had to do the work to keep the relationship. Just be sure you are just as willing with someone else.
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