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Old 04-12-2013, 07:01 PM
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Default of my insecurity

Hi,

I would love to start my first real post with something else than a rant of my own insecurity.... but this is recently been on top an troubling me quite a lot.

Background:

I am in a poly-relationship with a bi-woman who has a bf, been together for 1.5 yrs now and going to marry next summer. The three of us live together and as far as I know there is no trouble in this setup.

Troubling part:

I have a dear friend of mine with whom we are very competetive. She and I need to top each other in just about everything, she is just a tad smarter than I am (jury is out on that though) a lot more successful than I am, I am a tad younger and bit more beautiful (well I like to think so) and more artistic...

My partner is quite attracted to my friend and has opened discussion of her intrest on my friend, who is interested in my partner...

So my trouble is this: I do not believe that limiting my partner would do any good, those two people are attracted to each other and I believe I should not stand in their way... and here comes the BUT,

But I am not as secure as I may seem, my partner knows about the competetiveness of me and my friend and still wants to pursue... It all boils down to my insecurity, how to learn to handle jealousy and insecurity when there is close party as the third party?

well might be a bit more of a rant than a real question, but if it wakens any thoughts I would love to hear them

Kay
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Kay: tall, lesbian, polycurious?
A: my wife to be, bi, poly
O: her BF, straight, poly

to be continued?
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