Originally Posted by franchescasc
I'm not sure. I feel like I can imagine a safe space where my needs are being met and be ok with it. But I didn't think I'd react like this, so who knows. I just feel selfish asking for something they're not asking for.
I honestly think asking them to wait until you've passed through this new, panicky period is ok. And I think not knowing for sure that you will pass through it, but being ready to aim for it, is ok too. But I also do think that you're going to want to set some very clear boundaries in that case, so that misunderstandings don't leave them feeling frustrated and you feeling betrayed (ex. can they make out alone together? second base? etc.? or just no alone time period?).
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.