Thank you so much for you reply and your advice. I was able to do a little research this morning on the "unicorn hunters" I found it very helpful. We will continue to do our research in hope that, one we do find somebody, two we do it the right way and three we do not offend anyone.
I do have to admit the thought of sharing our life with someone else, though not the norm, does make me smile!!
Any other advice you would like to share, feel free.. I am all ears