It's tough. I have those same insecurities.
The one thing to remember is FJ has been with you 13 years. If y'all are good, and it sounds like you are, there's no reason you're going to be left behind. You might not get the attention you want, but that's negotiable.
edit: Oh, one thing I've been working on, being psycho (directed at me) certainly isn't going to make anyone want to spend time with you. Be as supportive as possible, and they'll want you around and want to support you.
Doesn't make it easy though. Good luck.
Me: 39 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 16 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan (formerly T) - poly female - 2.5 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Daley/Brigham/Wineguy: Susan's other men
Last edited by evad; 04-11-2013 at 09:01 PM.