Right now, I just want to give you a hug.
I'm so impressed.
SO OFTEN on this board (and other places) I comment to someone that they need to back up and consider the kids... but usually-they have a billion excuses for NOT doing that.
It appears both of you did do that. I know it wasn't likely that it was my post per se that motivated it. I don't care. I'm just so happy to see that you both backed up from the lines you had each drawn in the sand-that weren't benefiting the kids & are re-configuring things and figuring out how to do what is best for the kids and still get your needs met.
It's a great step.