Which is fine, the question posed by the OP was about finding a couple specifically to date and when they don't right away like both members of the couple, they seem to give up. Looking for a couple that they both like equally and likes them equally. Taking it slow and getting to know people is the best way. hence the advice to actually get to know someone rather than just dismiss people off hand because they don't feel an automatic and equal connection to two separate people that just happen to be together as well.
Me: Late 30s pansexual poly.
DH: My husband of 19 yrs and father of 3 teen girls.
DC: LDR of +4 year