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Old 04-10-2013, 02:19 AM
Tsukune Tsukune is offline
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Default Advice for a 2nd?

Hello everyone. I'm new to the site and polyamory. I recently got into a poly relationship as the second bf. She means the world to me. However recently I seem to be messing up constantly. She told me that she's starting to get paranoid about showing affection to him when I'm around, how do I let her know that I don't mind if she does it? The only thing that I'm awkward about is when I happen to be standing and facing them when it happens, even then that's cause I don't know where to look. I don't want to stare at them but if I stare elsewhere then it seems like I'm avoiding cause it makes me uncomfortable, which i'm not. I was weird about it at first but now I'm fine. As long as it makes her happy then I'm okay with almost anything. If any other 2nd's have advice, related to what I said or not, it would be much appreciated.

I feel I should mention that they were strictly monogamous before this. They have been together for a few years and have lived together for over a year now, meanwhile I am currently staying with family which means we don't have a place to be alone together except at their place. Even then we only really have alone time together for a few hours once or twice a week.

Note: Me and her other boyfriend are friends, have been since before me and her started going out.

Last edited by Tsukune; 04-10-2013 at 02:54 AM. Reason: more info
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