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Old 04-09-2013, 06:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Vixtoria View Post
That is where the language gets in the way. I dont' know about others, but we have tried to realize there is a difference between jealous and envy. I can be envious of someone else's good fortune without wanting to take it from them. Jealousy typically seems, to us at least, to be that not only are you unhappy that they have something you don't, but you don't want them to have it.

Granted other people might think the opposite but we found it important to know the difference and so have gone with those definitions.

So we go with the idea that you can have compersion and still be envious. Jealousy though, seems to be able to push out any compersion you might feel.
Not necessarily. Say I'm in a relationship with Susie. She's making out with Ted.

I can be happy for Susie, but jealous of Ted. I don't want Ted to have Susie.

But I do agree with what you're saying just of the partner and language.
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