Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
I don't think you should be shunned by either (which is why so many of us are up in arms on your behalf).
You are doing exactly what we spend HOURS AND HOURS AND HOURS telling people ON THIS BOARD.
"don't start a new relationship while the one (or two or whatever) are in crisis"
"fix the issues in the current situation first"
"take time to grieve before adding someone else to the mix"
etc etc etc
I think it's astonishingly sad (and misinformed) that anyone at all suggested anything negative about you taking a time out AND
I think it's imperative that we consider on a broad scale-this sort of "you are out because you don't fit the tight restraints of our definition" is exactly what creates so much segregation, anxst, depression, suicidal feelings etc in our world.
I think you are making a very solid choice and many of us have said-and continue to say-we appreciate you continuing to share HERE and anywhere else. Please don't stop on account of a few misguided interpretations. Keep talking.
It is not really anyone here. I have severed more ties in my personal life in one week than I half in all my years of living. All I can tell them is I am sorry my new dynamic does not mirror their idea of what is "right." It is what is right for me and what I have to do right now.
From some mono people, apparently I am flighty and bouncing in between two teams. I am encountering stupidity and ignorance beyond belief, which is why I said forget a label. Apparently, I am not mono because I am still poly at heart. I am not poly because I am not in more than one relationship or seeking another. I am suspended in the air and hovering in between the two. Is there even a label for that? I cannot call it mono by choice because society insists monogamy is normal and not a choice. I will stick to no label.