So, now I get to look like an ass. She's dealing with some depression issues. That will throw anyone off. I don't know if we'll be back to normal, but at least I have context. I can definitely support her rather than aggravating the situation.
Me: 40 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Ironically named Farmgirl - local interest