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Old 04-08-2013, 12:02 AM
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Originally Posted by loserville View Post
I get that she feels something for him, I get he feels something for her but I feel so very unequal and pushed aside that all I seem to be able to do is respond with anger now.

I was going to give a long drawn out response but, honestly, I don't even pretend to know how to fix a situation that has been this blown out of proportion.

You wanted to be open.
He took you up on your offer.
You told him you changed your mind.
He acted on his desires anyway.
You became a crazy rage monster
Now he thinks you are a crazy rage monster
You're going to couples therapy

All I can say is this:

Take responsibility for YOUR actions (not HIS actions)
Decide what it is you actually want out of a relationship
Determine if that picture includes your husband
Breath deep
Me: male, 43, straight, non-hierarchical, independent
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