Thank you, Ry!
I can honestly say I don't think she went into it with the intention of hurting anyone, I think she bit off more than she could chew and didn't know how to spit it out without hurting someone. I have to look at it that way, because thinking that I wasted the last seven years being friends with someone who didn't love me on any level at all is just too painful.
Either way, Choctaw and I are definitely interested in delving deeper into the world of poly (hopefully with someone who knows what they want this time). We just aren't sure how to go about doing it, since our last experience kind of evolved organically. Neither of us know where to start as active seekers of additions to our relationship. I'm hoping to learn from the more experienced