Originally Posted by ThatGirlInGray
So you're left with a situation where those who speak up publicly are silenced, one way or another. By AT's logic regarding staying on the topic of polyamory this whole thread could be removed any minute for being off-topic. The only avenue is PMs, which while great for privacy do nothing for transparency, and personally I am distrustful of such a set-up. I hope I'm wrong.
No, we're simply not going to be pulled into discussions of everything we do. We are not going to waste time with prolonged explanations of every infraction or decision to edit or remove or anything else. You are allowed to disagree with mod actions, certainly. You're not going to be able to clog the boards with complaints about them.
As for transparency, the mods are easy to identify--anybody who has something other than "member" in their user title--and the guidelines are posted for all to read. If you're maintaining that you have some privilege where you get to review all mod actions, I'm afraid you're sadly mistaken.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.