Originally Posted by WaxyZissou
no one is going to accompany me on a polyamorous adventure to meet people, my wife included.
Why not? It sounds like so far you've gone along with how your wife wants things, with her beginning the opening up process, and now she's at a point where she's satisfied with how things are for herself, but things aren't yet working so well for you.
Does she want to make her current job into a career, or does she plan on moving on to something else soon in which it wouldn't seem so risky for you to meet people in a way that works for you?