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Old 04-06-2013, 03:19 AM
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Originally Posted by RainyGrlJenny View Post
Additionally, I have discussed with both my partners and have agreed between the three of us that it's ok to get support from another partner if there is conflict, but that it's not okay to bad mouth one lover to another. Those are the lines we've drawn, because even though each relationship is private, I would seek advice from or vent to my close friends, and my partners are my best friends of all.
I think it's an important line, but for a different reason.

I don't hang out with anyone who trash talks, period. It says more about the person talking than the person being trashed.

That's not to say my gf and I won't sometimes "vent" about our frustrations with our husbands. But we acknowledge that we're upset with the situation or the behaviour, not bashing the men themselves.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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