There's a scale. I think Kinsey did one, but any bi or queer person can tell you where they fall on it. Completely straight, completely gay, or somewhere in between.
I find a lot of guys just want the cock of another man, not the whole man, no kissing, cuddling, dating.
That is why god gave us glory holes. Put your penis in hole in wall, get a bj! Voila! Everyone goes home satisfied.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags, F, 60, poly-dating, loving and living with
miss pixi, F, 38
Punk, 41, M
Old Friend, gender fluid
Nick, 35, M (occasional lover)
Hippie, 25 (?)
Dark Wing, 45 (?)