Couldn't Agree More.
While intense, and certainly feather-ruffly, I have to admit that I echo all of these sentiments. A relationship begun in deceit is going to end in deceit, from what I understand. It represents a fundamental crack in the practitioners integrity and ability to be honest and have discipline in their desires. It also doesn't say much about the level of respect inside the person they are getting involved with (provided they know what's going on). I don't buy the whole NRE thing; neither do I buy the "I was so drunk" thing. We're all responsible for our own actions. A solid character isn't an inherant right inside of humans, it's something that is developed and earned over time through good choices - and good choices aren't often easy choices, in my experience.