If I could get them to be friends, I would, lol, but they talk to each other in the whole fake polite tone but talk smack behind their backs so I know from experience how that always ends up. I'm just going to let it go the way it goes...I'm going to avoid pressuring them into staying with me and if one or both call it quits, well I guess I'm back at the drawing board.
The whole raising kids thing, though, is away in the future and even though we've all three breached the subject, we'll be happy to put it off until it's a more pressing matter...at least put off talking about it. It's definitely a thought in my mind on a regular basis.
But yeah, we're going to take it slow, fosho (lol, rhymes). Thanks for the input.