Wow, This is all really good "poly" information ....thank you FOL.
If you don't mind I have a couple of poly related questions that you might cover elsewhere already but I dot remeber. Did your then gf ever have other partners ...outside of Matt recently.
And did you ever consider adding a third and possibly a fwb as a pose to bringing a child into it?
And lastly was family planning a joint discussion and a joint decision among two equal partners ?