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Old 04-03-2013, 10:04 PM
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Originally Posted by franchescasc View Post
But when it comes down to it, she tells me she doesn't want to talk about MD. At all . . . I've talked to her a few times on the phone about other things, although she ocassionally brings up a "poly-horror-story" that she's heard. I just put up with listening and hope she'll come out of it soon.
That makes me mad. Don't put up with that insulting shit!

Put your foot down and tell her, "Listen, I know you think you're doing me some kind of favor by saying these things, but if I can't talk to you about poly, about someone who is important to me, and how happy I am to have her in my life, then you don't get to tell me these second-hand little horror stories that you seem to think proves some point and defends your opinion. Do not go there or we'll have nothing to talk about at all. If you don't want to listen to me, I don't want to listen to you."

The nerve of some people, really!
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