Originally Posted by BaggagePatrol
My observations came from these sentences:
"last night she told us that she doesnt think she can do this."
"i dont want to loose her i love her very much."
"so now im here hurt that she just broke if off before talking it over with us, scared and sad we are going to loose her."
Clear that the relationship is in jeopardy if she doesn't get one-on-one sexy times with the husband.
YES, but OP does not say that girlfriend said "you better or else".. You're adding things to the story. She had already made her decision, and told them what it was. That is not an ultimatum, it is not manipulative. If you think it is, well, that helps explain why you don't like the way I communicate.