I appreciate everyone's comments to our situation. as far as objectifying someone, we feel that if you truly know what you are looking for and throw it out there you are not objectifying people. you are just letting people know what you need, want and desire, in the most effective way. as well as letting people know that we are willing to work equally in the relationship. having high standers is not a bad thing in our opinion. but to each there own that what makes the world the great place it is.
we are using the same ideals and morals that we used to find each other to find someone else that we want to include in our lives, it worked great the first time. we are patient and this will be something that will be worth the wait. since we have the rest of our lives to live out our hopes and dreams.