Thanks for your messages ladies - means a lot to me. Yes, I too feel like I have done the right thing. Elemental and Mahogany's Husband went for a long walk/man-talk last night and it went really well. I feel a lot of compassion and respect for him, and Elemental and I both feel like he is an extremely reasonable and good-hearted man who has been forced into a situation that he is fundamentally opposed to. They talked a lot about his experience, his feelings and his philosophies on life and relationship, and I feel like they created a bond that will start a solid friendship between the two of them.
Mahogany has agreed to step back from outside relationships for the time being. I'm not sure whether to believe her, as she told me that if she couldn't be open, she would just start sneaking around and lying and pretending everything was okay (gross!) She is not telling him about Stream, and after Elemental's talks with her husband last night it seems that (shitty as it is) it's the right call if she wants to repair her relationship with him. For me, it's rotten at the core now - she's lied to him in a way that would DEFINITELY end their marriage, and is getting away with it, so to speak, which I think is total bullshit. The whole thing leaves a terrible taste in my mouth, and I am turned off on the whole. I could never trust her with my heart after watching her treat her husband like this - you make a very good point there Annabel. What she does to him, she'd do to me, etc. etc.
On another note....
This weekend was fairly insane. In the best possible way. We headed to the city mid afternoon, sun blazing, great tunes playing, stopping to do some pickups and dropoffs for the businesses. Coffees in hand, Elemental hand fed me sushi as I drove and we chatted and held hands comfy and relaxed. We arrived at our hotel and checked in, a sweet little corner suite with a soaker tub that I hopped into almost immediately. (Hereby referring to "T" as Copper - as she is bright and shiny like a penny, and has deliciously copper coloured skin and hair highlights). Txted Copper and let her know that we had arrived, and we made arrangements to pick her up for dinner later in the evening.
Elemental napped and I chilled out, and before we knew it we were en route to pick up our date. We've messaged lots, but it's the first time that we went out, and she txted me about her nerves. The sun was low in the sky, birds chirping and a sweet warm breeze blowing as we leaned up against the car awaiting her arrival. Perky and lean, she came out of her building, and my breath caught a little as I took her in. Blue eyes, long light brown and copper hair, her Latino roots shining through her beautiful skin which was peppered with beauty marks and freckles. Tight black pants, thick heeled light brown leather ankle boots, a lacey dusty rose top and a loose fitting rose jersey jacket. Stylish purse, makeup just so, light gloss on her nails and the prettiest mouth curved into a nervy smile. We hugged hello and her eyes sparkled. Literally. Like a cheesy Anime comic - I swear I saw a blinding little star come off the corner of one. Good lord.
Door opened for us by Elemental, we slipped into the back seat together, and after settling were ferried off to one of our favourite restaurants. We ordered wine while Elemental parked, and heard about the specials as he was seated with us. The bustle of the restaurant created a social din in the background as we made our menu selections. An incredible burrata cheese, flown in from Italy the day before arrived at our table, rough chopped basil and toasted crostini setting off its salty cream perfectly. They make their own olives and pickled grapes, and we savoured in their richness, the tart and sharp flavours making my mouth prick with saliva. Sips of rich red, an arugula salad with a brined dressing arrived, tiny flakes of cheese and pepper accenting the bitterness of the delicate leaves. We opted for a rich butternut squash risotto that made my pupils dialate. Could have cleared the table and gotten fucked right then; food is such a sensuous experience when it's done right, and this restaurant NEVER fails to get me going. Elemental sipped a particularly tasty Negroni, a curl of orange rind swirling in a campari and vermouth bath. We flirted and talked, learning more about her past, her desires, and her life.
She's been in long term relationships most of her life and finds herself newly single after being cheated on. She's working on repairing that relationship and creating a friendship out of it, but knows that she will never again trust him with her heart. She has always had the idle fantasy of a threesome, but knows herself to be too jealous to handle it within the context of her own relationship; now single, she felt it was the right time to do some exploring with a respectful and sexy couple before she entered into another relationship and lost her opportunity. She works hard, head chef turned classy server and doesn't want to invest heavily in a relationship right now; she wants cuddles, sex, intimacy and fun without the headache of a life-investment that she just doesn't have the time/energy for right now. She spoke of our attractiveness, and as we finished the last sips and nibbles of our meal, it was clear that the evening was on a rather interesting path.
We walked to the club, an incredible DJ from overseas on the bill; I picked up tickets a couple of months ago and like arriving early to this particular venue, as it means you can snag one of their coveted booths. I ordered a round of drinks and settled us in while Elemental went to go sort out details with the car, and her and I snuggled up side by side on the black leather seat. The club was almost empty, and it was easy to talk and giggle. She kept giving me these looks that made me want to kiss her on the spot, but slow and steady seemed like the right choice; plenty of time for that later, and anticipation is a delicious, delicious rite of passage in these kinds of scenarios. Elemental joined us, sipping drinks and talking, and by the time I went to get her and I a second round I encouraged her to get some snuggle time in with him. I came back to them curled into each other, and grinned to myself. Attractive times two. Gah!
Where you go... there you are.
Me: 35. TD, 43, my monogamous beau. Lily: 31, my lady/lover, in two other relationships. Mahogany: 38, my girlfriend, in one other relationship. Elemental: 44, my ex husband.
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