Originally Posted by BoringGuy
I do not understand why some folks get bent out of shape when other people, especially strangers, make "assumptions" about marriage and other personal/relationship things, because we all tend to use our own frame of reference when it comes to making sense of the world we live in.
That's a good point BG. In general the way we come to an understanding about the world around us is to look at the facts we have available, such as the definitions of the words we are discussing, and filter it through our personal experiences to come to a point of view. It shouldn't be shocking that the value judgment of how this knowledge "should" be applied varies greatly but we can cover a lot of ground without ever bringing in these personal judgments.
However, it is unfortunate that there are assumptions that all knowledge is relative (or even offensive) and therefore cannot or should not be discussed in any rational fashion. This just isn't true in the least. We can have all manner of discussions about (using this topic as an example) titles, the assumptions that commonly come along with those titles, and the possible impact those assumptions can have on particular goals. No attacks need be made and no one needs to get their feelings hurt by the conversation.
All of this can be done while trying our best to filter through our own subjective bias.
You guys dig Sam Harris? He is probably my all time favorite intellectual. I want to have his fat, pink, theoretical babies. In his book The Moral Landscape he devotes a lot of time early on, discussing the idea of how to talk about subjective topics. He frequently comes under fire from the hardline relativists and goes to great lengths to try and get some of this sorted out so that a meaningful discussion can take place.