Originally Posted by Dirtclustit
It's easier said then done and when it's done, a person might find the freedom to love more trouble than it's worth.
Reminds me of when I first met my husband. I told him I was poly and that I didn't mind if he wanted to have other partners too. I might as well have been telling a vegetarian that I don't mind if they share my steak. He'd never been big on relationships to begin with, and still can't conceive of wanting more than one. They're a lot of work!
So I've grown used to that idea, and it would be a huge mental shift for me if he came home one day and said he'd met someone he'd like to pursue a relationship with. I'm not insecure, but that would seriously have me wondering if something was wrong with our relationship.
Meanwhile, when my girlfriend tells me about some gal she's got a crush on, I think it's super cute. She always double checks to see if I would mind it they went on a date, and I always encourage her.
It's all perspective, I guess.