I'm sorry that you are hurting. This is a difficult situation but please know that it can get better - just maybe not in the way that you would like or hope for. He may have been caught up in NRE but that is no excuse, in my opinion, to break agreed upon boundaries or to put your health at risk. I find it almost impossible to believe that someone who has been diagnosed with HSV of either variant doesn't know that it is basically the same virus. My advice is to take some time for you - worry about you - do some self care. I agree with those in your life who are calling his behavior abusive. I may not know you, but I know that you deserve better.
Cast of Characters:
Me: bi female in a relationship with
JP: my straight male lover married for 13+ years to
J: my metamour (now one of my best friends)