Originally Posted by polynerdist
2. For things which are bigger issues, look at the severity, how much it affects you, and what the chances they will sort it out themselves
The part about things sorting themselves out is significant, even in non-intimate relationships, because I think people have the idea that if things aren't going perfectly smoothly 100% of the time, that something must be dreadfully wrong.
Sometimes things really DO sort themselves out, especially when someone has no control over them. We can drive ourselves crazy trying to make things go our way, I know because I have done this to myself (not with my marriage-relationship though) and I still need a reality-check every now and then.