I try to distinguish between "planning" and "brainstorming."
Planning means "This is what I'm going to do. I'm attached to a specific outcome and I'm going to take these steps to make sure that outcome happens. If that outcome doesn't happen, I will be disappointed because my plan failed."
I don't see how it's possible to plan something without getting your hopes up, but that could just be the way my mind works.
Brainstorming means "I'm just looking at possibilities." There's no attachment to a specific outcome, you're just looking at different way things might work, while remaining flexible to new outcomes based on what happens between now and then.
It may seem like a trivial distinction, but I find that it really helps combat disappointment when things don't go according to plan.
Gralson: my husband (works out of town).
Auto: my girlfriend (lives with her husband Zoffee).
The most dangerous phrase in the English language is "we've always done it this way."
Last edited by SchrodingersCat; 03-24-2013 at 07:37 PM.