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Old 03-23-2013, 12:49 AM
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Originally Posted by PhoenixLoch View Post
I have dreams of conversations with him and when I started telling him what I dreamt he started telling me everything.
Ooo freaky, because I know what that feels like. Sometimes I'll be half-asleep and I'll say something in my head when my husband is sleeping beside me, and he'll totally respond (out loud) to what I just said. But when I realize it and try to work it, I can't get it back. Of course, being a physicist, I chalk it up to some kind of quantum brain waves or something. I think it's silly for people to have such a narrow-minded view of reality. I mean, I don't buy into a lot of that paranormal stuff... but I've experienced just enough of it first hand to not write it off completely.

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It probably sounds pretty pathetic. Sorry I don't mean to sound like a total idiot!
No, it doesn't sound pathetic. Just because I was questioning your connection doesn't mean I was writing it off completely. I was just being my analytical self. Oxytocin and dopamine are the hormones that human brains release when people have those feelings, it's what we "feel." That doesn't mean the experiences that cause their release aren't real.

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But planning so deeply and far in the future tends to lead to getting your hopes up. And when a person gets their hopes up they tend to fall. HARD.
That's a good way to put it.

I'm a planner, too. I'm a lot better at giving "go with the flow" advice than following it :P Just ask my poor husband about when I was debating whether or not to go to grad school.

But I've had to learn that no matter how carefully I plan and how many contingencies I plan for, life never ever ever goes the way I expect it to. So even though it's really really hard, I'm trying to follow my own advice and learn to just let things happen more. It seems that whenever I do let go of specific outcomes, things just work out much better than I ever could have planned for.

Have you read Deepak Chopra's Seven Laws of Spiritual Success? A lot of people think it's hokey, and it kind of is, but you might get a lot out of it.
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