There seems to be a rash of threads lately, coming from women in these horrible relationships with selfish men. The women keep saying I don't want to lose him, I love him so much, I've never felt like this with anyone... but I'm so miserable because he treats me poorly or I can't stand this poly situation or his other girlfriend is so selfish.
And I keep asking myself: What the hell makes these guys so wonderful and amazing that all these women are just dropping at their feet, discarding their own happiness and sanity for the privilege of being with him?
The only thing I can come up with is that all these women have low self-esteem, and these guys are just playing into that. It's not that he's so wonderful. It's that she believes she's so awful that she's just grateful anyone would love her, so she'll put up with all kinds of shit from him, just so she doesn't have to be alone.
I find that so incredibly sad. None of these women seem like horrible, selfish bitches. That's generally the kind of person I deem unworthy of love. These all seem like nice girls, caring and compassionate. So they have some wonderful qualities to bring into a relationship.
So c'mon girls, stop letting these dopes spoil your happiness. There are plenty of great guys out there. Sure, they don't all look like Brad Pitt. Chances are, you're no J-Lo either. My husband was never eligible for Sexiest Man Alive, but he's a wonderful person and a caring and supportive partner. As cliché as it sounds, it really is what's on the inside that counts. Looks will fade over time, but a sexy bitch will still be a bitch when she's 40.
So I leave you with this