It is so hard to accurately explain oneself on here...
Our child is the center of our world. I do go to plenty of mommy groups and playdates. In fact, that is part of the problem. Being so wrapped up in child rearing. I want to hang out with people who don't talk about diapers and sleep habits.
I understand the point of not taking into account what other people can bring to our lives. The truth is that is exactly what we are both excited for, meeting new people and having new experiences. I think regardless of being single or in a poly relationship, you start by finding new people to share life with. And sometimes these friendships develop into something more.
What I was looking for was other couples that have made the switch from monogamy to poly/open relationships. To hear their advice, funny stories, and their success.