Originally Posted by Marcus
So in that regard I suppose I could call it a need, in that if I don't get it for long enough it will become a relationship deal breaker. I feel pretty cold saying it that way, but it's true.
I don't see it as cold, personally. It's realistic. Deaths in the family have broken up more than one relationship. Yes, she needs time to grieve, but that doesn't mean you stop having feelings either. While it would be selfish to make a big deal out of it so soon after it happened, you have reasonable limits and needs in your relationships. It's natural that push eventually comes to shove. But you seem to be patient and understanding, so I'm sure everything will work out in time.