I am sorry you are hurting.
You have brought things up before:
- follow through on promises
- communicate with you in the ways you prefer and do not TMI me
- do not threaten to break up with me as a means to get your own way -- that emotional manipulation. (And if he does it like that again, agree! And STAY broken up. Do not get back together.)
The relationship is 3 years old so you have a good gauge on his "typical behavior. It's been long enough.
What % would you give him for changing his ways to be considerate of you and not ding you on purpose OR thoughtlessly? 50% likely? Less? More?
If he NEVER changes, you are satisfied/unsatisfied
with this relationship as it stands?
I get they vibe you are not satisfied, and you wish he would change but see he doesn't/won't. You wouldn't want him for a primary and don't love some of his behaviors.
Are you sad because you are thinking about breaking up and need comfort? How can the forum be comforting/helpful to you at this time? What are your needs?