Originally Posted by westVan
I read and reread everyones advise here and took it
Contacted them and told them I needed to talk about the relationships and what I needed to go forward, .... at that point the relationship was ended by the wife.
you all have been very helpful with your advise and time.
Good for you. That relationship sounded like a real crapper and I imagine you're better off without it. ('thank you' emails, lol)
I agree with Tonberry, use this as a learning experience and let it help you to foster a more mutually healthy relationship in the future.