Hello hersforever and BSP83,
Welcome to the both of you (and to S for that matter!). I didn't have a lot to add, just wanted to say that it is interesting to hear more of your story. As for what BoringGuy meant by "awakening," I vaguely remember the thread that came from, but I forgot the details. BoringGuy and dingedheart can explain it, I'm sure!
Actually the whole thing about that is rather tongue-in-cheek, so I don't think you need to worry too much about it.
Sounds like you guys have a lot to figure out, but are approaching it with consideration to everyone's consent and needs. I'm glad to have you aboard!