Welcome to our forum.
I grew up in Utah and have friends and family there, so I can sympathize with the difficulties posed by living any kind of alternative lifestyle. Sounds like you guys all have a full plate, with the kids and that.
Glad to hear Polyamory.com has been helpful to you so far. I also recommend "Opening Up
," as far as books are concerned.
Hope you'll continue to read our various threads, and post any thoughts or questions you may have.