Originally Posted by Katze
This isn't my house, I don't own it. I can't make them leave.
It is your home though, right? And you are one of three -now two? -people paying all the expenses. I'd think that would give you quite a lot of say.
I think counselling is in order. I wonder if L realizes that "helping someone" and "enabling someone to drink and waste time all day rather than get a job" are not at all the same. It doesn't seem like a good place for kids, either. Perhaps you and B and the kids could all move out together, and invite L and only L to join you if he chooses? That's an extreme solution, but if the end goal is for a happy marriage and for C and P to have lives of their own, the current state is not working.