learninginTN said it well.
I would add only these thoughts:
Maybe you don't want to get sexual as fast next time? Give yourself more time to sound out your dating partner before becoming sexually intimate? Maybe your POV on a sex share is different than his.
Some people view sex like recreation, some like "getting to know you" activity" and some like an expression of great feeling or "Other" -- a transcendent thing.
Maybe you and your new dating partner could agree on what you expect from each other more clearly in other ways. Sounds like you want more and/or faster "responsiveness" than this guy has given so far?
Hang in there.