I am a bi-sexual woman married to heterosexual man. I know how hard it is to find that perfect situation. We are looking for a woman companion as well, of course you said you were lesbian, so that counts my husband out to start with. :-) But feel free to message me and rant and rave. I get frustrated because the women we meet only want him or me, not both. We just can't seem to find someone willing to get to know both of us. I feel it is important that my husband be included in all of my relationships whether in a sexual capacity or not. If you ever need to talk though, I am a good listener.