There is nothing wrong with your post.
And there was nothing wrong in you guys wanting to date and trying something out like a shared profile for an approach.
You gave it a whirl. It did not give you the results you hoped for. So... you ask for input for how it could serve you better. You received some input. I assume you were also googling methods on your own and/or asking around others. You could now assess from the new options and and try the best sounding/most doable at this time new option to see if it yields better outcomes for you.
It's just the decision making process. It does not have to be a biggie. Could take heart and not talk down to yourself or about yourself.