That depends upon whether or not any party in the relationship desires a change.
I have been in a V for over three years.
It started with an affair.
Freedom and privileges came slow because I had to re-earn trust.
However-at no point did my bf's needs NOT matter.
Even when DH was still volatilely angry over our affair-I made it MY responsibility to ensure that bf's needs were always considered.
"Love As Thou Wilt"