Not a wise choice, I can agree. We do need to work on our relationship first, but she feels we need a break; wants to explore this relationship with the other guy, and wants me to see what's out there. This may not be the exactly right forum for me to be in, but seems like its not the completely wrong one either. We are together, keeping a friendship and trying to be open and honest with each other and see where that takes us. People have told me that she is being very selfish in his whole thing, but I still bear some of the burden because I drove her to do this, and why? Maybe I do not love her as much as I should. Maybe there is someone out there that can inspire me to love.
My wife and I have talked and this open relationship will probably not be permanent, but is the course we have decided to take, wherever that takes us.